***Message contains some VULGER LANGUAGE Viewer Discretion is advised!***
I don't agree with all of the LANGUAGE but listen to THE MESSAGE!
"Next Time for MY HUSBAND & not that N**** I call MY FRIEND!"
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies how many times have you found yourself cooking, cleaning, loving, taking care of mentally, physically & sometimes financially a MAN, allegedly. Now I am NOT a MAN BASHER at all, I LOVE MEN! I am no where near an angry black woman, I'm actually ALL SMILES! But the TRUTH is THE LIGHT! I have GREAT examples of men in my life, and what a REAL MAN is. Thank you Daddy, Granddaddy, all of my Uncles & even my younger Brother. So let's get that straight. However, there's this thing that men (and women) use affectionately called GAME! But see we use this game differently. There's a saying, that says something about a man can fake an entire relationship (I see you ladies throwing your hand in the air, falling back on the couch...yea you feel me...LOL). You can be with a man for umpteen years and not technically have the "title" (plays Ciara "The Title" in the background...I'm literally playing it...click the red links to go to the sites...lol anywho). This leaves your man, boo, hubby, pookie, booboo freedom to do what he wants, when he wants and with whom he pleases, because technically *inserts Dumb Guy voice* "We just friends". Now this makes an average sane woman GO CRAZY and they always calling us crazy. Well, if we are crazy it's because they drove us crazy with all the drama and bull that they put us through. They expect us to play all the wifey roles with no problems, hesitation or complaints, yet they can't even commit to a title? (& even with a title it's still not right). See here is the problem ladies WE NEED TO STOP GIVING UP THE MILK FOR FREE! Point blank period. You already know the saying "Why buy the cow if the milk is free?" That's old school, but that's a FACT! I think we need to start going back old school on these no good so and so's. You will 'court' me, yes you Marcus Johnson (made up name sorry if ya know him or its you...ma bad LOL)! We are talking about dates, yes real dates, not you coming to my house to chill and we order pizza. Nooooo Nooooo buddy you driving SIDENOTE I HATE to see a woman escort her man around all the time like she's a Taxi Nooooo you the man you drive most of the time! Ok, back to the courting. You will pick me up, take me to a combination of the following: a nice restaurant, movies, put put golfing, laser tag, some type of fun activity, museum, or *insert you nice date idea*. Then, we will repeat several dates before you step foot into my living quarters. No "chilling" "I just want to be with you girl", "the movies not intimate", "you one of those girls?", "you a golddigger?" No sir I am a LADY and I deserve to be treated as such. You can go over Shantriniece house if you just want to "CHILL". We have to raise our standards. We are the WOMEN! WE HAVE THE POWER! When we demand respect the man has no choice than to give it or back away like a cowardly lil boy. Heck, if he does that he's saving us our time, and tears anyway because he can't handle YOU! Women what happen? When did we stop knowing our worth?
I know it is hard to "compete" with the hood rats of the world. They are easily impressed and give everything they have away so easy. The men don't have time for the CHALLENGE of a REAL WOMAN, but if we have to compete, he not worth it anyway! A real man will respect your guidelines and enjoy the thrill of something new, exciting, the chase! I have a lot of platonic male friends and ladies are giving away the goods first, second time chilling, yes I said chilling. Women where are your values? Don't you see yourself as more than what's in between your legs? Because if you haven't noticed EVERY FEMALE has one including dogs! That is not what makes you special and unique and your tricks you think you have probably not that sweet...LOL...I'm sorry I had to laugh at that one.
We give our ALL to these boys in men's clothing and when they act a fool we looked confused. Come on nah' My Beautiful Sistah Girlfiend (lol), you already knew what it was, we were blessed with Women's Intuition, and that you can bet your last dollar on! It is 99.9% accurate, don't play! Now, I'm sure I'm not telling you anything new. Well, if you said I'm not why are you continuously making the SAME FOOLISH mistake over and over and over again? Riddle me that? Now one time shame on him, two times he may have slid through the cracks GOOD GAME...he just had good game...LOL...BUT the third time you need to be smacked & you deserved it! LOL We are too smart to allow these men to play these childish games. DO we not forget who started these games EVE baybee she seduced Adam to eat that fruit she had the POWER! Now granted she used it for evil (matta' fact I got a couple words for Eve when I get to Heaven...LOL), but we have the power to use it for good!
Do you know everything a man does is to get a WOMAN?!?!?! If we made the qualifications different to get US, they would have no other option than to change to our new standards! Why is that so hard to comprehend? Ladies we need to seriously DO SOMETHING! *wife off John Q voice.
No more will I compromise my integrity, morals, values, Christianity for a man who doesn't have enough RESPECT for me to at the VERY LEAST give me "The Title" and that's just prelude to bigger and better thangs the RANG! *insert Beyonce's 'Single Ladies'* That's the whole point anyway. Why are we dating, kicking it, chilling if your intentions aren't to make me your WIFE one day anyway?!?! Boy BOOM! I have no time for you to be wasting my precious time!
Ms. Gilmore said a couple things that cut me deep: "In my world I was his girl, so I would pretend to be his wife...like I said I was his FRIEND not his WIFE, and I should have acted in that capacity...I wasn't living to my potential or I was just an average chic."
Man this speaks VOLUMES! First, I'm not anybodies average chic...LOL...But we as women have to know our roles. WE DOIN THE MOST! You not his wife stop doing the wifey duties! If we are friends than we do what friends do. See the Bible never spoke of any title besides HUSBAND & WIFE. So technically thats the only REAL TITLE that matters in the eyes of God!
I'm going to leave on this note: I have NO REGRETS I take everything and stride as Carrie Bradshaw so eloquently said,
"Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course, we wouldn't fall in love, or have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life and people go. But it's comforting to know the ones you love are always in your heart. And if you're very lucky, a plane ride away. ~Carrie Bradshaw"
So with that being said, "And though it may sound stupid, I would do it all again, BUT Next Time for MY HUSBAND & not that N**** I call MY FRIEND!"
XOXOXO Princess Nikki
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